we're learning to 're-connect to correct' with our son, who's world has massively shifted without his consent. he will thank us later, i know that for sure. he loves the baby but needs to know he's still welcome - in our arms, laps, his voice heard and his giggles appreciated. he's just a baby, our toddler-baby, and he doesn't suddenly become less dependent just because someone smaller comes along.
and we are learning to be married still, even with days that are long and evenings short and our own bedtimes sooner than normal. we are learning to pray, for our children and ourselves - not because we are supposed to, but because we have no other way to survive.
we sleep in separate rooms right now, each with our own babe to care for; we've never been closer, i reckon, never appreciated or clung to each other more.
these are learning days, for all of us. the more we accept this, the easier it is.